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II their own raising. They generally act in a disguise themselves, and therefore mistake all outward shows and appearances for hypocrisy in others; so that I believe no men see less of the truth and reality of things, than these great refiners upon incidents, who are lo wonderfully subtle and over-wise in their conceptions.

Now what these men fancy they know of wonien by reflection, your lewd and vicious men believe they have learned by experience. They have seen the poor husband so milled by tricks and artifices, and in the midst of his inquiries so loft and bewildered in a crooked intrigue, that they still suspect an under-plot in every female action; and especially when they fee any resemblance in the behaviour of two persons, are apt to fancy it proceeds from the same design in both. These men therefore bear hard upon the suspected party, pursue her close through all her turnings and windings, and are too well acquainted with the chace, to be flung off by any false steps or doubles : besides, their acquaintance and conversation has lain wholly among the vicious part

of womankind, and therefore it is no wonder they censure all alike, and look upon the whole sex as a species of impostors. But if, notwithstanding their private experience, they can get over these prejudices, and entertain a favourable opinion of some wonien; yet their own loose desires will stir up new suspicions from another side, and make them believe all men subject to the fame inclinations with themselves.

Whether these or other motives are most predominant, we learn from the modern histories of America, as well as from our own experience in this part of the world, that jealousy is no northern paslion, but rages most in those nations that lie nearest the influence of the fun. It is a misfortune for a woman to be born between the tropics ; for there lie the hottest regions of jealousy, which as you come northward cools all along with the climate, until you scarce meet with

any thing like it in the polar circle. Our own nation is very temperately situated in this respect; and if we meet with some few disordered with the violence of this paflion, they are not the proper growth of our country, but are many degrees nearer the sun in their conftitutions than in their climate.

After this frightful account of jealousy, and the ferfons who are n.ost subject to it, it will be but fair to fhew by what means the passion may be best allayed, and those who are pofleffed with it set at ease. Other faults indeed are not under the wife's jurisdiction, and, fhould, if possible, escape her obfervation ; but jealouly calls upon her particularly for its cure, and deserves all her art and application in the attempt: besides, the has this for her encouragement, that her endeavours! will be always pleafing, and that she will till find the affection of her husband rising towards her in proporlion as his doubts and suspicions vanish ; for, as we have seen all along, there is fo great a inixture of love in jealousy, as is well worth the feparating. But this shall be the subject of another paper.

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Credula res amor eft Ovid. Met. 7. ver. 826:

The man, who loves, is easy of belief. HAVING in my yefterday's paper discovered the nature of jealousy, and pointed out the persons who are most subject to it, I must here apply myself to my fair correfpordents, who defire to live well with a jèalous husband, and to ease his mind of its unjust suspicions:

The first rule I shall propose to be observed is, that you never seem to ditlike in another what the jealous man is himself guilty of, or to admire any thing in which he himself does not excel. "A jealous man is very quick in his applications, he knows how to find a double edge in an invective, and to draw a farire on himself out of a panegyric on another. He does not trouble hinself to consider the person, but to direct the character;

and is fecretly pleased or confounded as he finds more or less of himself in it. The commendation

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of any thing in another stirs up his jealousy, as it shews you have a value for others besides himself; but the commendation of that, which he himself wants, infanies him more, as it thews that in some respects you prefer others before him. Jealousy is admirably described in this view by Horace in his ode to Lydia.

Quum tu, Lydia, Telephi

Cervicemi rofeam, cerea Telephi
Laudas brachia, ve neum

Fervens difficili bile tumet jecur :
Tunc nec mens mihi, nec color

Certâ fede manet ; humor & in genas
Furtim labitur; arguens

- Quàm lentis penitùs macerer ignibus. Od. 13.lib.z.
When Telephus his youthful charms,
His roly neck and winding arms,
With endless rapture you recite,
And in the pleasing name delight;
My heart, inflam'd by jealous heats,
With numberless resentments beats ;
From my pale cheek the colour flies,
And all the man within me dies :
By turns my hicden grief appears
In rising fighs and falling tears,
That thew too well the warm defires,
The filent, flow, consuming fires,
Which on my inmost vitals prey,

And melt my very soul away. The jealous man is not indeed angry if another : but if you find those faults which are to be found in his own character, you discover not ooly your dislike of another, but of himself. In short, he is so desirous of ingrossing all your love, that he is grieved at the want of any charm, which he believes has power to raise it ; and if he finds by your cenfures on others; that he is not so agreeable in your opinion as he might be, ke naturally concludes you could love him better if he had other qualifications, and that by consequence your af fection does not rise fo high as he thinks it ought. If therefore his temper be grave or fullen, you must not be too much pleased with a jeft, or transported with any thing that is gay or diverting. If his beauty be none of the best, you must be a profeffed admirer of prudence, or any other quality he is master of, or at least vain enough to think he is.

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In the next place, you must be sure to be free and open in your conversation with him, and to let in light upon your actions, to unravel all your designs, and discover every secret however trifling or indifferent.. A jealous husband has a particular averfion to winks and whispers, and if he does not see to the bottom of every thing, will be sure to go beyond it in his fears and suspicions. He will always expect to be your chief confident, and where he finds himself kept out of a secret, will believe there is more in it than there should be. And here it is of great concern, that you preserve the character of your sincerity uniform and of a piece : for if he once finds a false glofs put upon any single action, he quickly suspects all the reft; his working imagination immediately takes a false hint, and runs off with it into several remote consequences, until he has proved very ingenious in working out his own misery.

If both these methods fail, the best way will be to let him see you are much cast down and afflicted for the ill opinion he entertains of you, and the disquietudes he himself suffers for your fake. There are many who take a kind of barbarous pleasure in the jealousy of those who love them, and insult over an aking heart, and triumph in their charms which are able to excite so much uneasiness.

Ardeat ipsa licet, tormentis gaudet amantis.

Juv. Sat. 6. ver. 208. Though equal pains her peace of mind destroy,

A lover's torments give her spiteful joy.. But these often carry the humour so far, until their affected coldness and indifference quite kills all the fondness of a lover, and are then sure to meet in their turn with all the contempt and scorn that is due to so insolent a behaviour. On the contrary, it is very probable a melancholy, dejected carriage, the usual effects of injured innocence, may soften the jealous husband into pity, make him sensible of the wrong he does you, and work out of his mind all those fears and suspicions that make you both unhappy. At least it will have this good effect, that he will keep his jealousy to himself, and repine in private, either because he is sensible it is a weakness, and will therefore hide it from your knowledge, or because he will be apt to fear some ill effect it may produce, in cooling your love towards him, or diverting it to another.

There is still another secret that can never fail, if you can once get it believed, and which is often practifed by women of greater cunning than virtue. This is to change sides for a while with the jealous man, and to turn his own passion upon himself ; to take some occasion of growing jealous of him, and to follow the example he himself hath set you. This counterfeited jealousy will bring him a great deal of pleasure, if he thinks it real; for he knows experimentally how much love goes along with this passion, and will besides feel something like the fatisfaction of revenge, in seeing you undergo all his own tortures. But this, indeed, is an artifice lo difficult, and at the same time fo disingenuous, that it ought never to be put in practice but by such as have skill enough to cover the deceit, and innocence to render it excusable.

I shall conclude this essay with the story of Herod and Mariamne, as I have collected it out of Josephus ; which may serve almost as an example to whatever can be said on this subject.

Mariainne had all the charms that beauty, birth, wit, and youth could give a woman, and Herod all the love that such charms are able to raise in a warm and amorous disposition. In the niidst of this his fondness for Marianne, he put her brother to death, as he did her father not many years after. The barbarity of the action was represented to Mark Antony, who immediately summoned Herod into Egypt, to answer for the crime that was there laid to his charge. Herod attributed the summons to Antony's desire of Mariamne, whom therefore, before his departure, he gave into the custody of his

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