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only by the man who at least made a shew of good priaciples, whether his heart was yet quite right or not.
Nor did the young lady's behaviour, at any time of the service, lessen this reverence. Her eyes were her own, her ears the preacher’s. Women are always most observed when, they seem themselves least to observe, or to lay out for observation. The eye of a respectful lover loves rather to receive confidence from the withdrawn eye of the fair-one, than to find itself obliged to retreat.
When a young gentleman's affection was thus laudably engaged, be pursued its natural dictates; keeping then was a rare, at least a secret and scandalous vice, and a wife was the summit of his wishes. Rejection was now dreaded, and pre-engagement apprehended. A woman whom he loved, he was ready to think must be admired by all the world. His fears, his uncertainties increased his love.
Every enquiry he made into the lady's domestick excellence, which, when a wife is to be chosen, will surely not be neglected, confirmed him in his choice. He opens his heart to a common friend, and honestly discovers the state of his fortune. His friend applies to those of the young lady, whose parents, if they approve his proposals, disclose them to their daughter.
She perhaps is not an absolute stranger to the passion of the young gentleman. His eyes, his assiduities, his constant attendance at a church, whíther, till of late, he used seldom to come, and a thousand little observances that he paid her, had very probably first forced her to regard, and then inclined her to favour him.
That a young lady should be in love, and the love of the young gentleman undeclared, is an heterodoxy which prudence, and even policy, must not allow. But thus applied to, she is all resignation to her parents. Charming resignation, which inclination opposes not.
Her relations applaud her for her duty; friends meet; points are adjusted, delightful perturbations, and hopes, and a few lover's fears, fill up the tedious space, till an interview is granted; for the young lady had not made herself cheap at publick places
.. The time of interview arrives. She is modestly reseryed; he is not confident. He declares his passion; the consciousness of her own worth, and his application to her parents,
tako from her any doubt of his sincerity, and she owns her self obliged to him for his good opinion. The enquiries o her friends into his character, have taught her that bis good opinion deserves to be valued.
She tacitly “allows of his future visits; he renews them the regard of each for the other is confirmed; and when he presses for the favour of her hand, he receives a declaratior of an entire acquiescence with her duty, and a modest acknowledgment of esteem for him.
He applies to her parents therefore for a near day; and thinks himself under obligation to them for the cheerful and affectionate manner with which they receive his agreeable application.
With this prospect of future happiness, the marriage is celebrated. Gratulations pour in from every quarter. Parents and relations on both sides, brought acquainted in the course of the courtship, can receive the happy couple with countenances illumined, and joyful hearts.
The brothers, the sisters, the friends of one family, the brothers, the sisters, the friends of the other. Their two families thus made one, are the world to the young couple.
Their home is the place of their principal delight, nor do they ever occasionally quit it but they find the pleasure of returning to it augmented in proportion to the time of their absence from it.
Oh, Mr. Rambler! forgive the talkativeness of an old man! When I courted and married my Lætitia, then a blooming beauty, every thing passed just sot But how is the case now? The ladies, maidens, wives, and widows are engrossed by places of open resort and general entertainment, which fill every quarter of the metropolis, and being constantly frequented, make home irksome. Breakfasting-places, dining-places; routes, drums, concerts, balls, plays, operas, masquerades for the evening, and even for all night, and lately, publick sales of the goods of broken housekeepers, which the general dissoluteness of manners has contributed to make very frequent, come in as another seasonable relief to these modern time- killers.
In the summer there are in every country-town assemblies; Tunbridge, Bath, Cheltenham, Scarborough *)! What
) Tunbridge, ein Städtchen in Kmi, am Flusse Tun, Bekannt
espence of dress and equipage is required to qualify the frer ggenters for suck emulous appearance.
By the natural infection of example, the lowest people bave places of six-penny resort, and gaming tables for pence. Thus servants are now induced to fraud and dishonesty, to support extravagance, and supply their losses.
As to the ladies who frequent those publick places, they are not ashamed to sbew their faces wherever men dare go, nor blush to try who shall stare most impudently, or who shall laugh loudest on the publick walks.
The men who would make good husbands, if they visit those places, are frighted at wedlock, and resolve to live single, except they are bought at a very high price. They can be spectators of all that passes, and, if they please, more than spectators, at the expence of others. The companion of an evening, and the companion for life require very different qualifications..
Two thousand pounds in the last age, with a domestick wife, would go farther than ten thousapd in this. Yet settlements are expected, that often, to a mercantile man espe cially, sink a fortune into uselessness; and pin-money is stie pulated for, which makes a wife independent, and destroys love, by putting it out of a man's power to lay any obligation upon her, that might engage gratitude, and kindle affection. When to all this the card - tables are added, how can a prudent man think of marrying?
And when the worthy men know not where to find wives, must not the sex be left to the foplings, the coxcombs, the libertines of the age, whom they help to make such? And need even these wretches marry to enjoy the conversation of those who render their company so cheap?.
And what, after all, is the benefit which the gay coquette obtains by her flutters? As she is approachable by every man, without requiring, I will not say incense or adoration, but even common complaisance, 'every fop treats her
the level, looks upon her light airs as invitations, and is on the watch to take the advantage: she has companions indeed, but no lovers, for love is respectful, and timo
wegen seiner, mineralischen Wasser. Ton Bath siehe Seite 182. Cheltenham in Gloucestershire und Scarborough in Yorkshire, sind gleichfalls bekannte Bade- und Brunnenörter.
rous; and where among all her followers will she find a husband ?
Set, dear Sir, before the youthful, the gay, the inconsiderate, the contempt as well as the danger to which they are exposed. At one time or other, women not utterly thoughtless, will be convinced of the justice of your censure, and the charity of your instruction.
But should your expostulations and reproofs hàve no effect
upon those who are far gone in fashionable folly, they may be retailed from their mouths to their nieces, (marriage will not often have intitled these to daughters), when they, the meteors of a day, find themselves elbowed off the stage of vanity by other flutterers; for the most admired women cannot have many Tunbridge, many Bath seasons to blaze in; since even fine faces, often seen, are less regarded than new faces, the proper punishment of showy girls, for rendering themselves so impolitickly cheap. I am, Sir,
Your sincere admirer.
LADY MARY PIERREP ON T, die Tochter des ersten Herzogs von Kingston, wurde im Jahr 1693 geboren. Sie vermählte sich mit dem Lord Worthley Montague, einem Abkömmling des unter Carl's II. Regierung so berühmten Grafen von Sandwich, und begleitete im Jahre 1716 įhren Gemahl, welcher zum Botschafter bei der Pforte unter Achmet IlX ernanrt worden war, nach dem Orte seiner Bestimmung. Auf dieser Reise sah sie Deutschland, Ungarn, die Türkei, Nord-Afrika, Italien und Frankreich. In Constantinopel liess sie ihrem dreijährigen Sohne dem nachmals so berühmten Sonderling Eduard Worthley Montague die Blattern einimpfen, führte nach ihrer 2718 erfolgten Rückkehr die Impfung in England ein, und wurde so eine Wohlthäterinn. des, menschlichen Geschlechts.
1739 verliess sia, ihrer schwächlichen Gesundheit halber, ihr Vaterland, lebte gröfstentheils in Italien und kehrfe von hier erst 1952 zurück. Sie starb 1762. Im Jahre 1763 erschienen
die Briefe, welche sie während ihres Aufenthalts in der Türkei und auf ihrer Reise dahin geschrieben hatte, unter dem Titel: Letters of the right honourable Lady M-y Wấy M—e, written during her travels in Europe, Asia and Africa, to persons of distinction, men of letters etc. in different parts of Europe; which contain among other curious relations, accounts of the policy and manners of the Turks: drawa from sources that have been inaccessible to other travellers, London 1763, 3 Vols. 12. An additional Volume to the letters of Lady Montague kam London 1768 in 8. heraus. Diese interessanten Briefe empfehlen sich durch Lebendigkeit der Darstellung und Schönheit des Stils in einem hohen Grade, und wurden bald in die meisten gebildeten lebenden Sprachen übersetzt. Einige bezweifeln indessen die Glaubwürdigkeit ihres Inhalts (man sehe Lüdekens Beschreibung des Türkisehen Reichs Theil 1. S. 419); sie können im Ganzen Recht haben, jedoch scheinen die Nachrichten, welche unsere Lady vom Türkischen Frauenzimmer, das sie nähei als irgend ein anderer kennen zu lernen Gelegenheit hatte, das Gepräge der Wahrheit an sich zu tragen. Sie hatte selbst in das Serail des Grossherrn Zutritt. Späterhin hat ihr Enkel, der Marquis Bute, eine vollständige, durch viele, bisher ungedruckte, Briefe bereicherte Sammlung herausgegeben, welche den Titel führt: the Letters and other works of the right hoDuarable Lady Mary Worthley Montague; now first published from her original manuscripts, under the direction of the most noble the Marquis of Bute, with memoirs of her life, interspersed with original letters of many distinguished persuns by the Rev. James Dallaway fein durch seine Reisen in der Türkei bekannter Schriftsteller), 5 Vols. 8. oder 5 Vols. 12. London, Philips, 1803. Die alten Briefe nehmen in dieser Sammlung kaum den dritten Theil ein. Die neuern, nun zu-' erst bekannt gemachten, sind von den Jahren 1739 bis 1760 geschrieben, an ihren Gemahl und ihre Tochter gerichtet, und enthalten neben vielen unbedeutenden Dingen auch manches Anziehende. Überall verräth sich die Frau von gebildetem, und man kann sagen, von männlichem Geiste, überall fället sie scharfe und bestimmte Urtheile. Dass es ihr an gelehrten Kenntnisse, nicht fehlte, beweisen die meisten ihrer Briefes aber nie prunkt sie mit ihrer Gelehrsamkeit. Dass der Umgang einer solchen Frau gesucht wurde, ist wohl natürlich; sie stand auch wirklich mit den schönen Geistern ihrer Zeit, vorzüglich